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Whether you’re a seasoned military spouse or have only just begun dating someone in the military, there is one sure thing that you will inevitably encounter- and that is physical separation from your loved one. In fact,
of all the uncertainties you and your partner may face during their military career, you can bet on being apart with absolute certainty.
While there is no way to predict the specifics of the when, where, what your own life circumstances are at the time and the how long these separations may be, there are a few healthy strategies you can implement to make the long distance much more tolerable and just maybe, enjoyable.
Here are 5 things you can do to deal with the long distance, in a healthy way:
- Find a hobby that brings you happiness
This doesn’t have to be a difficult task, you can simply take-up a hobby that you have enjoyed doing in the past and have possibly neglected due to time constraints. Home in on your artistic skills, be creative. Go to your nearest hobby store and see if you can find something to get you inspired.
Some examples are:
- Playing a musical instrument
- Painting/drawing
- Sewing
- Cooking/baking
- Reading/writing
- DIY home decor
2. Lean on other military spouses
Don’t let anyone dissuade you from befriending other military wives. They have a wealth of knowledge, and experience in dealing with the exact situation you may be dealing with.
Their insight may bring you comfort and keep you ‘in the know’ about any new information from your spouse’s unit. There are family readiness groups that are associated with your spouse’s unit that are helpful resources to gain the emotional support you may feel you need. These groups often meet for coffee, or plan on a fun activity while their spouses are away for extended periods of time.
3. Get focused on your goals
Whether it be educational, recreational or fitness goals- you’ve been given the extra time, use it to really focus on your goals. Find something you’ve always wanted to be better in, and work towards it.
4. Get daily exercise
This doesn’t have to be a strenuous task and would be dependent on how you tolerate the level of activity. But any aerobic exercise that gets your heart pumping for at minimum 30 minutes, 5-7 days a week is recommended by the American Heart Association (AHA) for cardiovascular health.
This includes:
- Walking/running
- Bicycling
- Swimming, etc.
5. Self-care
On the days that are extremely difficult, you are allowed to take time for self-care. Surround yourself with comfort. Take several moments for relaxation, and peace. Meditate. Take a nice bath- do it often. Get pampered and indulge in the things that make you feel the absolute best about yourself.
Self-care also includes:
- Getting adequate sleep
- Proper nutrition
- Seeking out professional counseling
- Focusing on getting exercise
This list is certainly non-exhaustive, and there may be a number of other ways to cope with the distance apart from your military spouse. But simply remember,
the separation is temporary, and you are being granted the incredible opportunity to be prove just how resilient and strong you are.